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Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Friendship

Friendships can be very fragile. It's hard sometimes to keep friendships going. Something important to one...may be hard for another to deal with and feelings may be hurt. Things you may have always done...may have to be changed. Some don't deal with change very well. At an older age we become set in our ways...and precious friendships may suffer by stubbornness. Sometimes friendships hit a rough patch and they need mending. You might want to talk about the problems that you have had in the past to find new ways to overcome them in the future. Just avoiding the problems could end the friendship for good.  Two people do need to be open with each other about what is bothering them. Once you have worked on problems that you may have with one another, it is always important to be careful. While it may seem as though your friendship has been repaired, you will need to keep in mind that there is a reason that it was troubled or damaged in the first place and you will need to tread carefully. Now days we are inundated with easy ways to communicate...tweets, facebook, emails, texting...but for me the old fashioned phone call  is the best. I like to hear some one's voice at the other end, so I can hear the reaction to what I might say. It's so easy to communicate the new way, but picking up the phone takes time...time that is well spent on a friendship. I think that we are losing some of our conversation ability by these, I'll call them gadgets. We don't seem to be able to carry on a conversation like we used to. 

At my age friends are few and far between. I don't want to lose any friends...especially ones that I've had for years. Old friends are something that a lot of people just don't have and when you do you'll find that  the more you are with one another, the less you idealize each other and the more you accept one another for who you really are. This is what being a truly good friend is really about––caring deeply for each other, warts  and all.
Balisha 

6 comments:

Marydon said...

Absolutely beautiful share.

TTFN ~
Hugs,
Marydon

Margie's Musings said...

I couldn't agree more, Balisha!

Barbee' said...

How sweet and thoughtful. I think anyone having you for a friend is very fortunate.

One Woman's Journey - a journal being written from Woodhaven - her cottage in the woods. said...

Balisha, thank you - and know in your heart that you are special to me...

Balisha said...

I wrote this post after having lunch with two women who I consider my best friends. THEY have had some misunderstandings in the past and we haven't all been together for quite a while. Yesterday was so tense at first...our conversation was not the same. As we went on with our lunch, things got a little better.As I left, I got to thinking that maybe we won't be able to get back to our old friendships. Maybe I'll have to go with them individually. I hope not. This post is how I feel about friendship. Life is too short to give in to squabbles....No one is perfect... I think that forgivness can lead us down the path of healing and a way of mending a friendship.
Balisha

Wsprsweetly Of Cottages said...

This was just a wonderful post and is meaningful to so many of us.
I have a very dear friend that I have had since high school. She no longer lives in California and she and her husband have chosen to live in Arkansas...so we go years now without seeing one another. Of course she had made new friends and at first I think I had a twinge of jealousy..but then I remembered. I also have made new best friends.. :) Still no one is like Nedra and never will be. She and her husband are...family. A brother and sister to me..and more.

We have been through so much over the years. Children problems, husband problems, money problems, and even problems with one another..and we have come through them all.
Like your two friends, I also went through that with Nedra and another dear friend. They fought..and never did really get their friendship back. I had to be friends with them separately for all these many years.

To me, nothing is as valuable as a wonderful trusted friend to grow old with. It has been a blessing. One of the greatest joys of my life, my best girlfriend. Our friendship is over 60 years old now.