When we find, what we think is the perfect mate, we marry... expecting marital bliss all the time.I think that people misunderstand the part of our marriage vows that says " Now you are One" When you are two separate people, independent thinkers, you will definitely not always be of one mind and having the same thoughts. We learn from our Priests, Pastors, Rabbis and marriage counselors.. that you come to a mutual understanding of each other and be respectful of one another as you work toward that understanding of like mindedness. It is a never ending lesson. The world has changed especially the woman's role in marriage. Years ago, women were home and took care of the kids and house and cooked the meals. Today, most need two paychecks to get by. Woman are busier that ever. I think that women's roles have changed more than man's. It seems that young Mom's are always on the go. Now, I know that men are busy putting food on the table and that they pitch in, when needed....but most women bear the brunt of the work in the marriage. I know that I am going to get in trouble for saying that, but there are always exceptions and some guys are real partners. (I have two sons who are very involved with taking care of things in their families)If we want to get along with each other...we both have to try harder in our marriages...today some view marriage as something you can throw away. We are all truly unique and to always agree is a pipe dream. We strive to be like minded in our faith and everyday living. When we keep Christ as the center of our lives, we have a helper from above. With the Lord's help...we can learn to respect each other and their opinions. Every morning can be new start in marriage.....if it is 3 yrs. or 50. When we wake up in the morning and look at our partner, it would be nice to wonder what we can do to make this a good day. Put aside our having to have our own ways causing petty disagreements. Try not to grumble and grouse about all the little things. We put so much importance on being right...for instance...who left the light on in the garage? When we think about it...isn't it silly to have to be right...who's counting?
Our visiting Priest at Mass last night...gave his homily and said that we shouldn't complain so much. He said that he wasn't feeling well, had a broken collar bone...would we please excuse him for being "cranky?" During his time at the altar, he complained about not having any directions from Father Nnaso, how to work the AC, why didn't he tell him that he was to bless the sick people in our congregation, the oil used for the blessing was old and not really enough. He caught himself...and laughed out loud...and said, "Here I am telling you all how to behave, and I complained so many times during this service. That just shows you that Priests are only human and make the same mistakes that you do." We all got a chuckle out of that. Sometimes we think that the Religious are above us and have no faults. They are here on earth...trying just like their flock...to get along. I hope that you have a peaceful Sunday where ever you are....and remember this post, if you start to complain.
Balisha (not so perfect) :)